My Philosophy

September 20, 2012 § Leave a comment

It’s not wise to judge others based on your preconceptions and by their appearances! People live their lives bound by what they see as “right” and “true”. That’s what they call “reality”. However “right” and “true” are nothing but vague terms. Their reality could turn out to be an illusion. Everyone is living by their own assumptions. Wouldn’t you agree?

We are ordinary humans, driven by revenge in the name of Justice. However, if we disguise our revenge by words of Justice, this “Justice” grows, gives birth to revenge, and thus the chain of hatred begins. By living through these events now, by knowing the past, we can look into the future. That is what we know as history.

Love gives birth to sacrifice which brings forth hatred and lets you know Pain. Knowing Pain brings out Revenge in the form of Justice which in the end won’t serve a purpose! We all have our individual idealism of Justice, rationale enough why we can’t understand each other’s pain! Man can’t walk in the steps of another, can’t put on similar footwear and see with the same perspectives. We are nothing else but human; however I’ll get a solution to end this chain yet in my own way!

Man matures because they know Pain. And to mature is to start thinking of yourself and to make your own decisions. To know, and reflect upon Pain, and come up with your own answer.

Ultimately, in a world guided by norms, rules, laws and regulations, one who defies them is regarded as a traitor, a turncoat! But an individual who turns his back on friends is worse than a traitor.


Time does not heal a Broken Heart.

December 12, 2010 § 3 Comments

Fifty-five: light

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When hurting, the most common statement or cliché used to help one who is hurting is “Time heals all wounds”. You are told to hang in there, pit a smile on your face and wait, for time will anesthetize your pain and hurt. But those who coin rules and clichés about loneliness are happy and unhurt people who have never actually felt the kind of hurt you feel when in pain. It sounds good to hear that with time, all hurt goes away, but it is not so true.

When you are hurting, time only magnifies the pain. Days, weeks and months may go by, but the agony hangs on. The hurting won’t go away, no matter what the calendar says. The role of time with hurt is it only pushes the pain deeper down memory lane. Sad enough, one tiny event or memory similar to what you had experienced can make everything resurface in greater deal and it may hurt much more than it did before.

Truthfully, it doesn’t help much, either, to know that others have suffered before you down through the past. You can identify with the sufferings of others, for instance Biblical characters, who survived tremendous ordeals of pain. But knowing that others have gone through great battles doesn’t calm the hurt in your bosom. When you discover how they came out victoriously from their trials, and you still haven’t, it only adds your hurt. It makes you feel like they were so special or lucky.

They key to a successive outbreak or victory is seeking God‘s guidance through prayers. When you turn God, with a sincere heart, He’ll make sure that he see’s you through your pain. Remember that God is a merciful Father and will never love seeing his child go through pain and will not bring you out glorified. Turn to God when you have your problems and He’ll work out a miracle.

Broken Hearts are meant to be!!

October 12, 2010 § 15 Comments

The general conception about broken hearts is always about love and relationships. When someone says his/her heart has been broken, cramped up or something similar to that, he/she usually refers to falling out with a partner. There are several raison d’être about why we have broken hearts all the time. It ain’t all about a love life as such.

What do I mean by broken hearts? By this, a broken heart (or heartbreak) is a common metaphor used to describe the intense emotional pain or suffering one feels after losing a loved one, through death, divorce, breakup, moving, being rejected, or other means. Heartbreak is usually associated with losing a spouse or loved one, though losing a parent, child, pet, or close friend can also “break one’s heart”. Although “heartbreak” is usually a metaphor, there is a condition – appropriately known as “broken heart syndrome” – where a traumatizing incident triggers the brain to distribute chemicals that weaken heart tissue (Biology).

Here is how this thing works. From the very hour and day you were conceived, you were given a heart which was going to learn how to grow loving and caring for the people who are of great importance to you. When you were born, you didn’t just lie there in open air but in the arms of your mother. You then grow up to be nurtured and catered for by both your parents and relatives. Your heart is meant to love, reason why you develop relationships with your family at large and other people (your peers). Emotions must grow because you love.

What happens is this. When these relations get hurt or pass away, you too are hurt. Depending on the type of relationship you keep with them, their pain will be your pain. So every time they are hurt, you too suffer same. So with the loss of either a father, mother, brother, sister, pet, …, or whatever you cherished most, you’ll evidently have a broken heart and it’ll always leave a permanent mark. As long as you get hurt, you get a broken heart. Pain and depressions are good symptoms of broken hearts.

Most people do not see it this way. They consider heart breaks with mainly broken relationships (Break Ups), which is just one of the parts that form all our life relations. This type of heart-break is common and unavoidable among the adventurous teens and youth of now-a-days. Generally speaking, a heart-break should NOT only be looked at from one point of view. Have you ever lost a person you held up so close at heart and you did not feel the pain? Have you ever wondered why the hurt is unavoidable?

Our hearts therefore are meant to be broken whenever and by whatever means because they were made to love and it’s an eternally given gift for us to cherish. There will always be sad times.

Do not get to misjudge the facts of hearts are meant to love and hearts are meant to be broken. Our hearts are made to love, but broken hearts – though are meant to be – do not last because there is a recovery process, a stage where we get to accept the factors leading to our hurt and realise that these things actually happen and are unavoidable.

We can’t avoid them!!!


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